Category: Leading Yourself

  • The Best Way to Talk About Leadership Growth in an Interview

    The Best Way to Talk About Leadership Growth in an Interview

    Leadership is a journey. You might be asked in an interview: “How have you developed as a leader?” This question tests your self-awareness, growth, and commitment to learning. Let’s break it down so you can give a strong, clear answer.

    Key Areas of Leadership Growth

    Your development should focus on these areas:

    • Self-Awareness – Know your strengths, weaknesses, and emotional triggers.
    • Decision-Making – Improve your ability to make sound, timely choices.
    • Communication – Learn to influence and inspire others.
    • Adaptability – Stay flexible and handle change effectively.
    • Empowering Others – Support and develop the people around you.
    • Resilience – Stay calm and focused under pressure.

    “Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.”

    – Jack Welch

    How to Measure Leadership Growth

    You can track your progress in a few simple ways:

    • Self-Reflection – Use leadership frameworks like John Maxwell’s Five Levels of Leadership.
    • Peer Feedback – Ask colleagues and mentors for honest input.
    • Results – Look at team performance, employee engagement, and goal achievement.
    • Learning – Review books, courses, and training you’ve completed.

    How to Keep Growing

    Leadership isn’t just about thinking—it’s about doing. Herminia Ibarra argues in Act Like a Leader, Think Like a Leader that leaders grow through action. Here’s how you can stay ahead:

    • Read and Learn – Books like The Ride of a Lifetime by Bob Iger offer valuable insights.
    • Get Training – Leadership courses and workshops sharpen your skills.
    • Find a Mentor – Learning from experienced leaders accelerates growth.

    “Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.”

    – John F. Kennedy

    How to Answer in an Interview

    When answering “How have you developed as a leader?” structure your response using the STAR method (Situation, Task, Action, Result). To strengthen your answer, focus on specific examples highlighting key leadership traits.

    Example:

    1. Situation: “Early in my leadership journey, I struggled with delegation. I often took on too much myself.”
    2. Task: “I needed to learn how to empower my team without micromanaging.”
    3. Action: “I read Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek, took a delegation workshop, and actively sought feedback from my team.”
    4. Result: “I became more effective at trusting my team, which boosted their confidence and improved overall productivity.”

    Your Next Steps

    Leadership is about growth. Take a moment to reflect: How have you improved as a leader?

    Write down three key areas of progress and think about how you’d explain them in an interview.

  • Promoted to Manager? Here’s How to Earn Respect Without Losing Friends

    Promoted to Manager? Here’s How to Earn Respect Without Losing Friends

    Becoming a leader is exciting but comes with challenges. You must build trust, earn respect, and set clear expectations. If you were promoted internally, shifting from peer to manager can be tricky. You’re no longer just a friend—you’re the one making tough calls.

    Build Trust with Your Team and Stakeholders

    Trust is the foundation of strong leadership. People follow leaders they believe in. Here’s how to build that trust:

    • Be honest and transparent about your goals and decisions.
    • Listen more than you speak. Understand your team’s concerns.
    • Follow through on commitments. Reliability builds credibility.
    • Encourage open communication and feedback.

    Research shows leaders prioritising trust see stronger team performance and engagement (Brower et al., 2000).

    Managing Internal Promotions: Shift Perceptions

    If you’ve been promoted within your company, your relationships will change. Some colleagues may struggle with seeing you as a leader. Others may expect special treatment.

    Here’s how to handle it:

    • Define boundaries early. Be clear about your new role.
    • Treat everyone fairly. Avoid favouritism.
    • Communicate openly. Address any concerns head-on.
    • Seek guidance from mentors or leadership groups.

    The First 90 Days by Michael Watkins stresses the importance of setting expectations from day one. Taking control early prevents misunderstandings and resentment.

    Leadership Can Feel Lonely—Here’s How to Cope

    Leadership isn’t just about managing others. It also means making tough decisions that not everyone will like. This can feel isolating.

    • Find a mentor who has been in your shoes.
    • Build a support network outside of work.
    • Set aside time for self-reflection and growth.

    Heifetz and Linsky, in Leadership on the Line, advise stepping back to see the bigger picture. This helps leaders manage stress and avoid burnout.

    Balance Relationships with Accountability

    Strong leaders know how to support their teams while holding them accountable.

    • Set clear expectations from the start.
    • Give feedback regularly—both positive and constructive.
    • Lead by example. Show the work ethic you expect from others.
    • Recognize achievements. People work harder when they feel valued.

    Kouzes and Posner in The Leadership Challenge emphasize that credibility comes from consistency. Your team watches what you do more than what you say.

    Practical Takeaways

    • Communicate clearly and often.
    • Build trust through consistency.
    • Establish professional boundaries.
    • Seek mentorship and leadership networks.
    • Balance approachability with authority.

    Effective leadership isn’t about being liked—it’s about being respected. Set the tone early, stay true to your values, and lead with integrity.

    Journeying:

    Articles and Reading:

    Article: Leadership Transitions and the First 90 Days

    Forbes Article: Why It’s Hard To Transition From Doing To Leading

    McKinnsey Article: New leadership for a new era of thriving organizations

    Article: Leadership Transitions: The Key To Organisational Success

    Article: Developing leaders by supporting their transitions into senior positions

    Videos:

    Simon Sinek on Building Trust

    It’s Lonely At the Top: Turn Loneliness into Leadership That Matters

    Short and Snappy Video on Building Trust

    References

    • Image Credit: PixelPop
    • Bass, B. M., & Riggio, R. E. (2006). Transformational Leadership. Psychology Press.
    • Brower, H. H., Schoorman, F. D., & Tan, H. H. (2000). A model of relational leadership: The integration of trust and leader-member exchange. The Leadership Quarterly, 11(2), 227-250.
    • Dirks, K. T., & Ferrin, D. L. (2002). Trust in leadership: Meta-analytic findings and implications for research and practice. Journal of Applied Psychology, 87(4), 611.
    • Gabarro, J. J. (1987). The Dynamics of Taking Charge. Harvard Business School Press.
    • Heifetz, R. A., & Linsky, M. (2002). Leadership on the Line: Staying Alive Through the Dangers of Leading. Harvard Business Review Press.
    • Kouzes, J. M., & Posner, B. Z. (2017). The Leadership Challenge: How to Make Extraordinary Things Happen in Organizations. John Wiley & Sons.
    • Northouse, P. G. (2021). Leadership: Theory and Practice. Sage Publications.
    • Senge, P. M. (2006). The Fifth Discipline: The Art & Practice of the Learning Organization. Crown Publishing.
    • Watkins, M. (2013). The First 90 Days: Critical Success Strategies for New Leaders at All Levels. Harvard Business Review Press.

  • Why Do Some Teachers Resist Leadership Roles?

    Why Do Some Teachers Resist Leadership Roles?

    Moving from the classroom to a leadership role is a big step. Some teachers embrace the challenge. Others avoid it. Why?

    Why Some Teachers Stay in the Classroom

    • Love of Teaching – Some educators find deep satisfaction in working directly with students. Leadership often means giving that up.
    • More Work, Less Balance – Leadership roles come with longer hours, meetings, and added stress. Not everyone wants that.
    • Fear of Losing Connection – Principals and administrators can feel distant from everyday classroom life. Some teachers worry they’ll lose touch.
    • Burnout – After years of teaching, exhaustion sets in. Adding leadership responsibilities feels overwhelming.
    • Bad Experiences with Leadership – If a teacher has dealt with poor leadership, they may not want to be part of the system.
    • Feeling Unqualified – Imposter syndrome is real. Many teachers doubt their ability to lead, even when they’re ready.
    • Unclear Path to Promotion – Some schools don’t provide clear steps for career growth. Without guidance, teachers feel stuck.

    What Makes a Good School Leader?

    Good leaders:

    • Support and empower teachers.
    • Make decisions that help students.
    • Communicate clearly and listen well.
    • Stay connected to the classroom experience.
    • Lead by example, not just by authority.

    Why Do Teachers Choose Leadership?

    Some teachers want a new challenge. Others see leadership as a way to make a bigger impact. Here are a few reasons they step up:

    • A Desire to Grow – After years of teaching, leadership offers a fresh challenge.
    • Higher Pay – Leadership roles often come with a salary increase.
    • A Sense of Progression – Some teachers feel they’ve earned a leadership role after years in the field.
    • A Chance to Influence Change – Principals and administrators shape school policies and teaching practices.

    Barriers to Leadership

    Even when teachers are interested in leadership, obstacles get in the way:

    • Not Knowing Where to Start – Without mentors or a clear career path, leadership feels out of reach.
    • Nepotism and Favoritism – Some feel leadership positions go to those with the right connections, not the right skills.
    • Fear of Isolation – Moving into leadership can mean losing daily interactions with teacher peers.
    • Introversion – Leadership often requires public speaking and constant interaction, which can be draining for introverts.

    Final Thoughts

    Not every teacher wants to lead, and that’s okay. But schools need to provide clear pathways, mentorship, and support for those who do.

    Would you consider a leadership role? What’s stopping you?

    Journeying:

    Books:

    • “Resistance in Educational Leadership, Management, and Administration”
      This edited volume offers various perspectives on resistance within educational leadership and management. taylorfrancis.com
    • “Responding to Resistance: Thirty Strategies to Manage Conflict in Your School” by William A. Sommers
      This guide provides practical strategies for educational leaders to address and manage conflict within school communities. solutiontree.com

    TED Talks:

    • “A Teacher’s Lesson on Leadership” by Beth Wolfe
      Beth Wolfe shares her journey of growing as a leader, emphasizing the importance of courage and the impact of small actions. ted.com
    • “We Cannot Lead Others Without First Leading From Within” by Lolly Daskal
      Leadership expert Lolly Daskal discusses the internal qualities essential for effective leadership. ted.com
    • “Resistance as a Pathway to Change” by Melinda Wells
      Melinda Wells explores how embracing resistance can lead to positive change in educational settings. ted.com

    Additional Resources:

    Books:

    • “Resistance in Educational Leadership, Management, and Administration”
      This edited volume offers various perspectives on resistance within educational leadership and management. taylorfrancis.com
    • “Responding to Resistance: Thirty Strategies to Manage Conflict in Your School” by William A. Sommers
      This guide provides practical strategies for educational leaders to address and manage conflict within school communities.
    • “Teacher Leaders, Classroom Champions” by Jeanetta Jones Miller
    • This book discusses how teachers can serve as leaders within their classrooms and influence school communities.solutiontree.com

    Ted Talks:

    • “A Teacher’s Lesson on Leadership” by Beth Wolfe
      Beth Wolfe shares her journey of growing as a leader, emphasizing the importance of courage and the impact of small actions. ted.com
    • “We Cannot Lead Others Without First Leading From Within” by Lolly Daskal
      Leadership expert Lolly Daskal discusses the internal qualities essential for effective leadership. ted.com
    • “Resistance as a Pathway to Change” by Melinda Wells
    • Melinda Wells explores how embracing resistance can lead to positive change in educational settings.ted.com

  • To Rediscover Your Purpose: Chop Wood, Carry Water

    To Rediscover Your Purpose: Chop Wood, Carry Water

    Learning is all about making connections. Connections with, and between students, between classroom learning and real-life, and between our passions and our experiences (jisedu.or.id). It is inevitable after two weeks of lockdown and 6 weeks into Distance Learning, that we may feel some of these connections are starting to break down. It can be difficult to remain positive when the only constant connection in your life is with your internet.

    For educators, Distance Learning seems to attack our very purpose- to develop relationships with students and inspire them to take control of their learning. Without the physical presence of a teacher, or other students to collaborate with, many students find themselves floundering. 

    From our homes, we feel helpless in supporting them, and can only watch the product of months of work and effort seemingly dissipate. It is often the children most in need of strong connections that regress when faced with working online, without the much-needed love and support of their teacher to hand. It is the struggles of these students that we find most difficult to accept.

    When working online, we often fail to experience the joys of seeing a student struggle through a problem to achieve the correct answer,  to laugh at an impromptu joke, or to be amazed at an original idea. Quite often, no matter how innovative a teacher’s approach may be, teaching and learning can become rather passive and didactic online. Without experiencing these moments of joy and celebration, the job itself can seem rather pointless, and we begin to question our own direction. 

    It is important to remember at times like these that our purpose remains the same. It is only the path that leads us there that has changed. Our students still know that we care, and they share the very same frustrations that we do. They want to be back in the classroom as much as their teacher. After all, school is fun. So, when we are feeling lost or disconnected from our purpose it is important to throw ourselves into the process. The work. The rewards will come later. Ryan Holiday writes:

    “Every time you sit down to work, remind yourself: I am delaying gratification by doing this. I am passing the marshmallow test.”

    Ryan Holiday

    This thinking reminds me of an old Zen proverb that my friend used to carry as his mantra. “Chop wood, carry water.” In other words, just do the work, no matter how tough it gets, how little reward or acknowledgement you feel,  just do the work.  If you stay in the present and focus on the process, you will learn a lot, and hopefully, emerge stronger for it. 

    As teachers, we are responsible for leading and guiding our students. This goes without saying. Many of us do this without thinking, at the expense of leading ourselves. During times of upheaval, leading ourselves can sometimes take a back seat, whilst we aim to stay in the race and get the job done. It is important that as we navigate the challenging circumstances brought to us by the pandemic, we do not lose sight of our ‘True North’. Reminding ourselves of our purpose can help the trying times seem less trying and look towards the rewards of the future. 

    “The hardest person you will ever have to lead is yourself.”

    Bill George

    These last two weeks in China have been amongst the most challenging of my career. Emotionally, physically and spiritually. I have had days of sheer frustration and days when I have felt helpless. On Thursday morning, I left a meeting so frustrated I called a friend and vented. I felt better, albeit briefly. Venting, however, solved nothing. Instead, I felt guilty for placing my frustrations on someone else’s shoulders. When a situation is out of your control venting does not help. Focussing on doing good work, however, does. When I look over the events of the last week there a definitely a few bright spots in the work, that reminded me of why we have chosen to do the work we do. 

    On Monday, the Senior Leadership Team informed teachers of some amendments in assessment policy that would be implemented in light of our online situation. A reduction in Assessment of Learning and a renewed focus on Assessment as Learning. With the pressures of formal assessment removed, we can be free to take risks as teachers and encourage students to channel their energies into their curiosities and passions. A small step, adding an element of fun to the online experience and a focus on teaching skills and character.

    On Thursday, a Grade 6 student sent an email to the leadership team. Her parent had tasked her with finding herself a new school in Australia and she was seeking some support. An 11-year old girl faced the challenge of doing this alone. My heart went out to her. She was asking for advice, and at that moment, I was reminded again, that these kids need us. We may not be physically present and yet, they turn to us. The same day, I saw “A Letter from That Kid”. This is an open letter from a student to their teacher posted on social media. The letter reminds us that we do not know the challenges our students may be facing at home, and whilst we may be experiencing frustration, remember that they are too.

    On Friday, we worked in Teacher Evaluation groups as part of our CIS accreditation process. My group was focused on Domain A: The Purpose and Direction of the school. I had prepared the Zoom session as best I could, and of course, things did not go as planned. Links would not work and many of us were called for COVID testing mid-session. The session, however, generated some rich discussion around the school’s guiding statements and it was clear that as a community we are indeed moving in the right direction despite the chaos that we find ourselves in. Much work to do, much to be proud of.

    “Resilience and humility go together. If you are grounded in your organization’s purpose, it gives you the energy to navigate the storms. Humility also helps you to recognize that you don’t know everything, so in moments of crisis you reach out for help; you learn.”

    Carolyn Dewar

    Friday afternoon did also present itself to be one of the most emotionally taxing moments of the week. The school held a town hall meeting to discuss the current difficulties facing those who wish to fly home for the summer. Many have not seen their family since before all this began, and wish to return home for the first time in three years. Flights, however, are currently only one-way and are extremely expensive, re-entering China is also problematic. The dilemma is real. Fly home and see family, potentially being trapped outside the country and forfeiting your job, or remain here for one more year and continue to work in whatever form it happens to be when August rolls around. The conversations were honest and heartfelt, with everyone present understanding and respecting the challenges we are facing at this time. Whilst not everyone will have left the meeting happy, I was reminded of the strength of our community, and that our core value, empathy, may just be the most important value that we possess at this time.

    Journeying:

    Image: Stockninja at iStock.com

    A Letter to Teachers From That Kid

    Empathy Is The Most Important Leadership Skill According To Research: Forbes.com

    Empathy Rules: Harvard Business Review

    Leadership Lessons From The World’s Best CEOs: Mckinsey.com

  • Leading Yourself: The Importance of Staring Out of the Window

    Leading Yourself: The Importance of Staring Out of the Window

    As we enter week 5 of Distance Learning I can feel my energy wane and my momentum slow. It is now, at this time, that I revisit my routine. Searching for more efficient or effective ways to maintain my productivity. Emails, meetings and to-do lists have spiralled out of control whilst we pivot and learn how to respond to ever-changing government prevention regulations. The increased workload is felt by all, teachers, students and parents. Add the stresses of social isolation, forced online collaboration and dodgy internet and you have a recipe for burnout.

    During my mornings, I make it a point to read. If only for 20 minutes. This is essential for my growth as a leader, but also for maintaining my own well-being.  This week I am reading Alain De Botton’s ‘The School of Life: An Emotional Education.’ Within the pages of this book, De Botton discusses the importance of art, nature and kindness in contributing to a well-rounded and healthy life. He also discussed the importance and necessity of taking a time-out. During a busy day, we can often feel guilty for staring out of the window or randomly vacuuming the floor. We should not, however, feel guilty at all. It can serve as an essential part of the thinking process by offering a pressure-free moment to let our thoughts run wild and maybe, subside.

    “I had a great day. The high point was staring out of the window.”

    Alain De Botton

    De Botton claims that the point of staring out of the window is not to find out what is going on outside. It is more of an exercise in discovering and making sense of what is already going on in our own minds. Starting out of the window offers us an opportunity to experience a sense of ‘purpose-free calm’. To be able to observe the scene and yet not be part of the scene. No need to respond. A form of strategic procrastination. 

    “Procrastination may be the enemy of productivity, but it can be a resource for creativity.”

    Adam M. Grant

    Adam Grant discussed the power of procrastination in his book ‘Originals: How Non-Conformists Move The World.’ The best ideas can often be developed and improved upon if left a while to sit after being formed. During this period of Distance Learning, I am finding that staring out of the window and removing myself from the online environment, if only for a few minutes is of the utmost importance when cultivating ideas, and essential for maintaining my overall sense of well-being.

    After furiously replying to emails and back-to-back meetings with parents. I close the laptop and look into the distance. I am lucky that I have a view of Shenzhen Bay outside my window. The water is calming and I can ignore the frantic goings-on in the foreground. Twenty minutes later I often return to my project calmer than before with a newfound creative approach or solution. It is working for me. I encourage you to give it a try. Find a window near you, stare into the distance and take notice of your emotions afterwards. Encourage your students to do the same. I am sure they will feel and perform better for it.

    Journeying

    Image: Tumisu on Pixaby

    Originals: How Non-Conformists Move The World by Adam Grant

    The School of Life: An Emotional Education by Alain De Botton

    TedTalk: Adam Grant- The Surprising Habits of Original Thinkers

    Alain De Botton- It’s OK to feel Not OK right now